Double Bind
2005.03.04 3:20

Last Tuesday I was asked to come to a club by a so-called pretty woman. Of course I was glad to take her to a bar all at my expense. As is always the case as everybody - many ordinary guys, I like a pretty woman. But in my experience a pretty woman is usually of hubris, because she knows she is highly likely to be loved by many guys, she tends to make light of my dedications to her, I mean however hard I love her, she tends to ignore me my love, besides, she will be asked by many guys - especially powerful guys - economically affluent, vocationally respectable, relatively handsome guys - to have date with her. Indeed only because of her appearance, she's got much more than an ordinary woman by nature.
So the problem is I am not as powerful as I can keep her as my girl-friend. Soon after she started romantic relationships with me, she realised I was unable to give her enough satifaction, so she start looking for another guy to start another relationship with. That makes me unsecured, but I have no way to prevent her from getting in touch with another more prosperous guy.
So naturally I tend to choose less pretty woman rather than fairly pretty one, which causes me another dissatisfaction.
Whichever I chose, the problems lay in my sides. ...Middle Aged Deliquent like me ... Just sorrow.
When we left the bar, as is always the case as me - not others maybe, I asked her to go to a hotel to sleep with me, she said, 'some day in future if we can keep on this good friendly based relationship'.
We all men are always deceived by a gentle word of a 'pretty' woman like her. But it was mysterious I was able to be encouraged a lot by her. I expect next time.
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For me, appearances are lower on the list(Score:2)
by Degrees (220395) <degrees&comcast,net> on 2005.03.04 23:32 (#11843817) (http://home.comcast.net/~gerisch Last Journal: 2005.09.24 11:46)
Don't get me wrong, my wife is pretty. But I wanted her for my wife because of her personality. She is fun to be around, she easily laughs.
It is true that some women, who are especially pretty, use that as leverage. Some however, are better than that. It all comes down to "is there more to this person than their appearance?"
With my wife, the answer is "yes" - she laughs and is energetic. One way that helps her to like me, is that I like to make her laugh. So we have that in common.
--The difficulty of Libertarianism: not 'I must be free' but 'That other jerk must be free, as well'.
Re:For me, appearances are lower on the list(Score:1)
by mercedo (822671) on 2005.03.05 1:48 (#11845016) (http://slashdot.org/~mercedo/journal/109855 Last Journal: 2005.09.24 14:16)
she easily laughs.
Your wife is pretty, besides laughs well, first of all you have a wife, which I don't.
I can send you photos of all my previous girl-friends and loves and wife(s), you might mistake them for visual lists of monsters.--Ancient Greek Philosophers -18c Enlightenment Thinkers -Slashdotters [ Parent ]
Re:For me, appearances are lower on the list(Score:2)
by Degrees (220395) <degrees&comcast,net> on 2005.03.05 12:12 (#11850418) (http://home.comcast.net/~gerisch Last Journal: 2005.09.24 11:46)
1) No need to send photos, I get the idea.
2) Boy I hope your previous girlfriends, loves, and (now) ex-wives don't read slashdot.org! ;-)
Well, I suppose you don't mind if the ex-wives read it. Heh.
--The difficulty of Libertarianism: not 'I must be free' but 'That other jerk must be free, as well'. [ Parent ]
Objective of Love(Score:1)
by mercedo (822671) on 2005.03.07 15:08 (#11863309) (http://slashdot.org/~mercedo/journal/109855 Last Journal: 2005.09.24 14:16)
Since I lost the objective of love some months ago, I am now in a phoney equilibrium between love someone and not to love anyone. In my thirties, I never failed to live with someone, easily I was able to shed love upon her who I lived together. Now everybody's gone.
I just woder how I was selfish indeed in relation to others, if I really realised how I was, I would have another oppotunity to fall in love with someone, 'pretty' one of course.--Ancient Greek Philosophers -18c Enlightenment Thinkers -Slashdotters